REJECTING REJECTION: WHY "NO" SHOULDN'T HOLD YOU BACK

The worst answer you could ever receive is a no. But what if that no becomes the catalyst for your success? What if the rejection fuels your determination to pursue your dreams, your goals, and your passions? The truth is, not everyone will share your enthusiasm, and that's okay. You don't need universal approval to start your journey. The only truest approval you need is from God, your creator and, yourself. 

In fact, expecting everyone to say yes to your ideas can be crippling. It's a recipe for inaction, paralysis, and regret. The reality is that some people will doubt you, dismiss you, or simply not care—and to me, that’s alright for a stipulated period. But that shouldn't dictate your path. Your dreams, aspirations, and passions are unique to you, and their value shouldn't be measured by others' validation.

When I first had the urge some years ago to make an impact—in whatever way possible the good Lord deem worthy of me, I thought of using the Junior High Schools. Not because they are the only youth, but because at the time they were the ones I could use as an instrument to make a change. Immediately, I thought of my alma mater, by going back there to make an impact in the lives of the pupils, but then, I got discouraged as to whether I will be granted audience with the students. 

I was deeply concerned and wondering how to ask the head of the school by she not rejecting my request of speaking to her pupils. I got struck off by this for a while until I took the bold step to ask her—whether she accepts or rejects it, at least I tried. 

The most successful individuals have learned to reject rejection. They've understood that "no" is not a definitive answer, but rather an opportunity to refine their approach, reassess their strategy, and push forward. A typical example is the famous Thomas Edison, who failed over 1,000 times before inventing the light bulb we are enjoying today across the world. Another inspirational story is from J.K. Rowlings, the author of the celebrated novel; Harry Potter. Her book was rejected by 12 publishers until it finally hit the book shelves. Stephen King's Carrie was another author whose book was rejected 30 times. 

Rejection has always been there even since the time of Adam, we are not the first neither will we be the last to experience it. Rejection is part of life—it is a tool used by God in His own miraculous ways to make us believe and determine for ourselves. So I gathered momentum and took a letter to the head. To my utter shock, the headmistress, who was the head some few years before when I was in Junior High, was still the same person. To cut a long story short, she was equally proud and elated to see him and warmly welcomed my request. 

The key is to focus on those who believe in you, who share your vision, and who are willing to help. Surround yourself with people who empower and support you. Collaborate with those who complement your strengths and weaknesses. Together, you can overcome obstacles and achieve remarkable feats.

However, it's crucial to recognize that even with a supportive network, you'll still face rejection. You'll encounter closed doors, skeptical critics, and discouraging setbacks. That's when your resilience, determination, and passion must shine through. Remember why you started, and let that purpose drive you forward.

So by the grace of God, within a week, my team and I planned and went to speak to the pupils. That was our first project to the junior high schools, and truth be told, it wasn’t easy. I have learnt to better ask and get whatever rejection there be for me, rather than keep mute and speaking for the person, “He or she won’t allow, give or accept me.” 

Don't wait for universal approval or consensus. Start now, with what you have, where you are. Take small steps, learn from failures, and adapt. Celebrate your wins, no matter how small they may seem. Every success builds momentum, reinforcing your confidence and resolve. Even if you receive rejection, there is always something you can do about the project you are seeking assistance with. It might not be the same way if you had gotten that support, but doing nothing about your project won’t help you—at least do something. 

Ultimately, the only approval you need is your own. Trust yourself, your abilities, and your vision. Recognize that "no" is not a reflection of your worth or potential. It's merely a detour on your journey to success.

In conclusion, don't let the fear of rejection hold you back. Embrace the power of "no" as a catalyst for growth, innovation, and perseverance. You are capable of achieving greatness, regardless of who says yes or no. So, go ahead, take the leap, and watch your dreams unfold.

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